Tired of self-care routines that never last?
Get the course that teaches you how to build a sustainable self-care practice without forcing a routine so you can finally stop forcing it and start responding to what you need in the moment – all for just $47.
You don’t need a self care routine to practice self care.
Be honest… how many morning routines have you tried, only to quit after a week because life got in the way? 🫣
Tracking habits, building routines, trying to see just how many things they can do all for the sake of saying, “I’m taking care of myself” IS NOT self care.
Every self-care “expert” tells you the same thing: Build a routine. Stick to it. Be consistent.
And every time you try, it works for maybe a week. Then life happens. You miss a day. Then two. Then you’re back to square one, feeling like you failed at self care… again.
If routines worked for you, you wouldn’t still be searching for a different approach.
This is your moment to shift away from that self care routine that hasn’t been working for you.
Picture this: It’s Tuesday afternoon, and instead of feeling guilty about the meditation app you haven’t opened in three weeks, you’re making your coffee and doing a quick check-in, a ritual that takes 30 seconds and actually happens.
Instead of following a perfect routine, you’re now simply showing up for yourself in tiny ways that actually fit into your day.
And at the end of the week, you realize something surprising: you’ve taken care of yourself more in these seven days than you have in the past three months of “trying to stick to a routine.”
Rituals, Not Routines
a short, practical mini-course that shows you how to build self-care into your day without forcing a routine.
here’s what you get INSIDE…
Instant access to our Rituals, Not Routines Framework
a repeatable system you can come back to whenever life changes
Bite-Sized Lessons
that clearly explains the difference between rituals and routines, how to create and add them into your day
20 Ready-To-Use Ritual Examples
you can borrow, adapt, or repeat
Permission to skip, adapt, and change
because life happens and your self-care should respond to that
Exclusive invite to The Self Care Lounge
You’ll get an exclusive invite to our student only group, The Self Care Lounge. Ask questions, share wins, and surround yourself with amazing women!
This course is perfect for you if:
You’ve tried a dozen routines and quit them all
You feel guilty when you don’t stick to your self-care routine
Your life is unpredictable and routines just don’t work for your schedule
You’re tired of forcing yourself to do the same thing every day regardless of how you feel
You want self-care that responds to your actual needs instead of following a script
It’s probably not for you if…
You love routines and they’re working great for you (stick with what works!)
You want a step-by-step routine to follow every single day (this teaches flexibility)
You’re looking for a quick fix or day-by-day challenge
You prefer having someone tell you exactly what to do instead of choosing for yourself
If this sounds more like you, you’re better off suited for the 14 Day Self Care Series.
BEHIND THE COURSE
Hi , I’m Destiny Holmes
Founder, friend, mom and very into all things self care except “self-care routines.”
I tried every morning routine, evening routine, and self-care routine I could come up with.
And you know what? I failed at all of them
Because routines don’t work for real life.
Real life is messy and unpredictable.
(an actual photo of what my living looks like sometimes)
MEET YOUR HOST
Hi , I’m Destiny Holmes
Founder, friend, mom and very into all things self care except “self-care routines.”
I tried every morning routine, evening routine, and self-care routine I could come up with.
And you know what? I failed at all of them
Because routines don’t work for real life.
Real life is messy and unpredictable.
(an actual photo of what my living looks like sometimes)
Some days you wake up energized. Some days you can barely get out of bed and everything else in between.
A routine doesn’t leave room for any of that.
So rather than trying to steady force myself into routines, I started building rituals instead.
And you know what happened:
✨ I stopped feeling guilty when I didn’t do “the routine”
✨ I actually started taking care of myself consistently (just not in the same way every day)
✨ I gave myself permission to respond to what I needed instead of forcing what I thought I “should” do
Now I want to show you how to do the same.
Ready to ditch your self care routine?
Rituals, Not Routines gives you an easy, sustainable way to take care of yourself without the guilt, pressure, or rigid schedules that make you want to give up. Get it today for only $49
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
What’s the actual difference between a routine and a ritual?
A routine is the same steps in the same order every day. A ritual is an intentional practice you choose based on what you need.
Will this teach me a new routine to follow?
Nope! This teaches you how to stop relying on routines and start building a toolkit of rituals you can choose from. You’ll have structure without the rigidity.
I’ve tried “flexible routines” before. How is this different?
A “flexible routine” is still a routine. You’re just allowed to skip things sometimes. Rituals are a completely different approach, where you get to choose what you need instead of following a pre-set plan.
What if I’m brand new to self-care?
Perfect! You won’t have to unlearn a bunch of routine-based habits. This will help you build sustainable self-care from the start.
I have a different question.
Great! Send us a message using the message box on the bottom right of this page (the one with our logo) or email us at [email protected].
P.S. Still trying to make that morning routine work?
Think about how much energy you’ve spent feeling guilty for “failing” at self-care. What if you just… stopped forcing it and started choosing it instead? Yeah. Join here 😉