Before You Set That Boundary
The $9 mini course that walks you through the exact steps to understand what’s wrong, identify how you really feel, and figure out what you need so you can set boundaries that actually work (instead of messy conversations that go nowhere).
How many times have you tried to set a boundary and it went completely sideways?
If you’re like most people trying to set boundaries, you’re probably:
Starting the conversation without knowing what you're actually upset about
Ending up MORE confused after the conversation than before
Getting sidetracked because you can't explain why it's really bothering you
or avoiding the whole thing because you don't even know where to start
And look, I get it. No one teaches us how to do this stuff.
But what if you knew EXACTLY what was wrong, how you felt about it, and what you needed… BEFORE you tried to set the boundary?
What if the hard part was already done before the conversation even happened?
Right now, you’re trying to set boundaries but you’re skipping the most important step.
The worst thing you can do when setting a boundary is jump into the conversation without understanding…
What actually happened not the version you've replayed 47 times,
How you actually feel, with words more specific than "bad" or "just upset"
What you actually need to feel safe and okay
Because ehrn without emotional clarity first, you’re setting yourself up for messy confrontations, guilt spirals, and conversations that veer completely off-topic.
If you struggle to set boundaries, this is the missing piece.
Let’s stop the messy confrontations and start getting clear so you know exactly what to say when the time comes.
I can’t recommend this course enough! To any introverted person looking to improve their communication and relationships, this is a great resource that will help you right now and in the future.”
INTRODUCING…
Before You Set That Boundary
The $9 mini course that gives you a simple 3-part framework to sort through the emotional mess and get clear before you ever open your mouth.
here’s what you get INSIDE…
Instant access to the 3-Part Emotional Clarity Framework
A simple, repeatable process you can use before any hard conversation
Bite-Sized Lessons
clear explanations of each step so you can move through the framework quickly and actually use it
List of 100+ Feelings
so you can identify exactly how you feel and communicate it clearly.
Permission to take your time
because rushing into a boundary conversation before you’re clear never ends well
Exclusive invite to The Self Care Lounge
a supportive space to reflect, ask questions, and stay connected as you practice setting boundaries.
Ongoing access
to the course and any updates
“As I am someone that struggles greatly with boundaries, I am really liking Boundaries 101 so far. The content is really great to help you dig in.”
“I love this course. You’ve taken something that seems overwhelming and rude to someone who used to be a complete people pleaser like me and made it feel empowering.”
“Sometimes it’s easy to feel that we already know what setting boundaries looks like but honestly, for me, I truly didn’t. Going through this workshop has truly been an eye-opener for me, and it’s something that I keep coming back to.“
“I highly recommend Boundaries 101 if you are serious about understanding how to set better boundaries to live a more exhilarating life. It really opened my eyes!“
When you get emotional clarity BEFORE you set that boundary
you’ll finally be able to…
Stop avoiding hard conversations because you finally know what to say
Stay focused during the conversation instead of getting sidetracked or overwhelmed
Actually know what you’re upset about instead of fumbling through vague feelings
Communicate clearly because you understand what happened, how you feel, and what you need
…all without spending hours overthinking or second-guessing yourself.
Hi , I’m Destiny and I used to be set terrible boundaries.
You know something’s wrong. You can feel it.
So you decide to set a boundary. This time you’ll speak up.
You start the conversation and then… you can’t quite explain what the problem actaully is.
The other person gets defensive, the conversation goes completely off-topic, and you end up talking about something totally different (that’s somehow magically now the problem) and end up apologizing when YOU’RE the one who was hurt
Sound familiar?
For myself, this has happened far too many times than I can count.
That’s exactly why I started studying boundaries and eventually built this framework. It’s my go-to process for having hard conversations that actually lead somewhere. And now I want you to have it, too!
Ready to get clear before your next conversation?
Don’t go into another hard conversation feeling confused and unprepared. This is a straightforward process that works whether you’re setting boundaries with your mom, your boss, or your “best friend” who keeps cancelling plans.
Frequently asked Questions
What if I already know what’s wrong?
That’s great! But do you know how to explain it clearly? Do you know what specific emotions you’re feeling? Do you know exactly what you need? This framework helps you get even clearer so the conversation goes smoothly.
Will this teach me what to say during the conversation?
Not exactly. This mini course is about the work you do before the conversation; getting clear on what happened, how you feel, and what you need. That clarity makes the actual conversation way easier, but we don’t give you word-for-word scripts.
How long does this take?
The course itself is bite-sized lessons you can get through quickly. Working through the framework for each boundary situation might take 10-20 minutes, but it’ll save you hours of messy, confusing conversations.
What if I’m not good at identifying my emotions?
That’s what Part 2 teaches! We walk you through how to figure out what you’re actually feeling (beyond just “bad” or “upset”). No emotional intelligence degree required.
I have a different question.
We’re all ears! Send us a message using the message box on the bottom right of this page (the one with our logo) or email us at [email protected].